A Special Thanks From Carol Wagener
Olga de Volga's Sister
Hello
Dear Ginger,
I've
been wanting to contact you for some time, but I've been kept pretty
busy since Olgy Sue closed her eyes. Right off the bat our
mother
became very ill and I feared she was going to follow her oldest
daughter! Susie's death has really taken a toll on mom; she
is now
physically better, but her mind and spirit may never
recover. I tried
the phone number that Olga had in her big black book for you, but it
was no longer a working number. I want to thank you for the
tributes
you published in your May issue of the Punk Globe. I
forwarded
that
information to all family members and many friends. Your
tribute meant
a great deal to me . . . words can not even begin to express my
emotions. Thank you so much.
Let
me know if you would like to see photos from the service and I will
send them along.
I'm
attaching the obit I ran in the Hilo paper. I actually wanted
to run a longer one in the SF
Chronicle. . .and I wanted to put it in
both SF papers, but the SF
Chronicle was verrrrrrrry expensive, so I
just had to go with what I could afford. And, I'm attaching
some older
photos of Olgy....when she was only Susan, and some when she added Olga
to the mix that I thought you might like to see. The first
one is
about age 18, then 25 or so, then two you probably recognize, and the
last one I think she was in her late 40s...possibly early 50s?
I
was reading through old letters from Olga one night. I was
blanking on
the name of one of her surviving cats, and I wanted to list that in the
obit I ran in the Hilo papers. I knew I had a letter or two
mentioning
the cat, so that is why I was going through my letters. In
doing that,
I ran across an old letter where she was apologizing to me for being
such a butt. It was after our brother had been killed, and
after I had
spent 6 weeks in Oklahoma City getting our nephew through outpatient
rehab to save his right leg. (He was driving the motorcycle
the day of
the accident that killed our brother.) Anyway, things in OK
City
didn't go too well with the nephew and I wound up taking him back down
to Durant, OK, instead of bringing him back to Seattle before sending
him on to HI to spend the summer with his auntie Olga, which was the
orginal plan. I was feeling pretty rotten about the whole
thing...was
suicidal in fact and wound up in therapy, etc. During
that
time, Olga
and I had gotten in to it over the phone regarding the whole Oklahoma
thing...which of course just made things even worse. In her
letter of apololgy to me, she said "my good friend Ginger Coyote made
me
realize what an ass I have been"....
then she went on a bit and told me how you had "set her
straight"....and she was very grateful to you of course. Well,
I'd
like to thank you for that TOO. You really helped Olgy and I
patch
things up : - ) You are a good friend...only a really good
friend will
let you know when you're being an ass...and of course we all are like
that from time to time.
Thank
you again for being such a good friend to my big sista,
Olgy-Sue. I loved her so very much. She and I were most
definitely
connected on a psychic level....I always knew when she was in danger or
pain....I could feel it....and now I feel so very strange without her
presence in this world. It's so different from when my dad
and brother
died. I guess because she and I shablack so much in our early
years that
I was more connected to her in ways I was not to Dad and
Glenn. The
last couple of years of her life were so hard and I shed so many tears
over her and with her, that I thought I was ready for her
death. I am happy that
she is no longer suffering...but I realize now that I was not ready
because it is impossible to imagine the pain of
the actual loss.
Aloha
Nui Loa,
Carol
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de Volga obituary
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